By Bernard Shabazz
Most times, I don’t feel comfortable revealing my vulnerability to my mother. Although we share blissful moments, I can’t help but focus on the moments I mistreated her. I recount times when I snuck into her closet and stole money out of her purse. I did this to act as if I was selling drugs, and I would give money to people so I could have friends.
I recount moments when I challenged my mother’s authority, to where she questioned her abilities as a mother. I recount a moment where my mother found raps I wrote calling her out her name and disrespecting her.
All because I was lost and had no way to regulate myself.
I have since noticed the errors of my ways and have dedicated my life to refine myself. Our relationship has improved since my teenage years, but my mistakes will haunt me for the rest of my life, and I am okay with this.
We were brought into this world by a Black woman. Ideally, Black women are naturally our teachers and providers. To further explain, Black women have the ability to pass down their knowledge or build their philosophy for their children to carry forward.
We are the representation of Black women’s ideas.
People in power have an understanding of this and will continue their effort to separate us as a family dynamic. We were placed in a harsh environment where our hearts are hardened and our minds are corrupted. During this process of corruption, Black men’s viewpoint on Black women were altered in a very negative and harmful way.
Although we should embrace the “bitch” and the “slut” sometimes, every Black woman cannot wear that narrative. So why do we only highlight that behavior and mentality? Why do we pay attention to this propaganda? It has become a lifestyle.
As Black men, the time is now to rewire our minds. Especially on how we view our Black women. We must handle them with the care and respect they deserve, Even with no relation or connection to them. If we claim our community, then we must apply this sentiment in all aspects. Spaces must be provided for our women to grow in their worth and fully embrace the experience as Black women.
We can no longer limit our queens!
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